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I believe in true love to the extent that it exists in CLAMP storylines. Otherwise...
This is an interesting article to read:
I think I agree with this article to an extent (it's hard to agree completely when I'm not single and in my 30s, or a single mother). We have a generation of girls raised by Hollywood (and Disney) and society to dream after a happily ever after, or Mr. Right, or The One. What is "true love" exactly? What is "settling"? Maybe there's just being pragmatic, practical. Maybe this is why my mother's told me to find someone now, early, "before 23 because then all the good ones are taken".
Are we all a little too idealistic? Love is passion, but it is more than just passion. Marriage is more than just love, too, it's commitment and compromise and figuring out how to make it work and work together.
Maybe it's how I was raised, but I don't think I could ever "just" date. Dating is about finding someone you'd be happy being with for the rest of your life. I wouldn't date if I didn't see a future, not necessarily one full of romance and dreaminess and perfect connection, but a future, nonetheless.
This is an interesting article to read:
My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion or intense connection. Don’t nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling “Bravo!” in movie theaters. Overlook his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics. Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year. (It’s hard to maintain that level of zing when the conversation morphs into discussions about who’s changing the diapers or balancing the checkbook.)
-by Lori Gottlieb, Marry Him!, The Atlantic, March 2008
I think I agree with this article to an extent (it's hard to agree completely when I'm not single and in my 30s, or a single mother). We have a generation of girls raised by Hollywood (and Disney) and society to dream after a happily ever after, or Mr. Right, or The One. What is "true love" exactly? What is "settling"? Maybe there's just being pragmatic, practical. Maybe this is why my mother's told me to find someone now, early, "before 23 because then all the good ones are taken".
Are we all a little too idealistic? Love is passion, but it is more than just passion. Marriage is more than just love, too, it's commitment and compromise and figuring out how to make it work and work together.
Maybe it's how I was raised, but I don't think I could ever "just" date. Dating is about finding someone you'd be happy being with for the rest of your life. I wouldn't date if I didn't see a future, not necessarily one full of romance and dreaminess and perfect connection, but a future, nonetheless.
