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As promised, this post is about The Boy!
Story of the Boy
At law school, we have mentoring programs. For the school and within organizations as well. Boy, as a second-year student, was the mentor of my friend Lynn, while I got Anna, who is a third-year and seriously on top of her shit. She's a little intimidating, but incredibly helpful. She wasn't nearly as approachable as Boy, though, and because Lynn and I are attached at the hip (studying, eating, hanging out together all the time), the three of us ended up spending a lot of time together.
It sounds like a simple story from there, doesn't it?
Here's the catch: Boy had a girlfriend. Of two years.
Before you run around calling me a homewrecker, you should know that they had already been having problems for the past few months. They'd been acting more like friends than a couple for those few months, and he'd been meaning to have a serious talk with her about their relationship even before he got to know me.
I knew he had a girlfriend, but only because of Facebook. He didn't talk about her, didn't spend time with her, didn't really act as if he had a girlfriend at all, even though she not only lived in the same city, she went to WashU. (She was an undergrad, though older than me by some bizarre twist of fate her and visiting Japan for a year or something. I was never sure on the facts.)
I didn't hit on him. I didn't try to go after him. I like to think I have a little class and some integrity (despite all my jokes of lacking ethics and trying to sell my body to pay off my loans)! I hung out with him the same way I hung out with all my other guy friends - I tried to be friendly and fun and myself, but apparently I sent out pheromones without realizing it. D: a lot.
Catch 2: Boy was one of five guys who liked me this semester.
And before you start thinking that I'm some crazy attractive hot babe (hi, so not true, remember how I look twelve?), you gotta take this in context: we're in law school. We live in law school. We have no lives outside of law school. And within our group of friends, I was the only girl who was single and Not Crazy. I was the best option out of few, not a hot commodity on my own. Either that or I just flirt without realizing it at all. :| This is a very real possibility because I suck like that. Life is difficult when you're oblivious to social signals like I am alskdjfld. Don't be like me, kids!
But all that was resolved. No one hates me. No one's disgruntled. All is well. The first guy who confessed to me is one of my closest guy friends now, and two of the others are also good friends in our group. The fourth has been distant now that he's realized he has no chance, but that's his problem.
As for Boy, I felt stupid and retarded and horrible after a while so I confessed. I told him we needed to talk, so we had coffee and I told him straight out that I liked him, I knew he had a girlfriend, but that I just wanted to make it clear that I wasn't demanding anything of him. I just wanted to get it out in the air because keeping it inside was making me crazy like a girl stuck in a horrible drama.
So. He told me he liked me too, but even if he broke up with his girlfriend (since they were already having problems), he wouldn't want to date because (1) we had too many friends in common and he was worried about losing them if things went badly, (2) he was good friends with the first boy who confessed to me, and was afraid there might be bad feelings there, (3) we were both really busy with law school, and (4) he felt like he owed it to his current-soon-to-be-ex to not start seeing someone immediately since they'd been together for so long. (He was such a law student, wtf, ready with his list of reasons asdjklf.)
You know, he really is a good guy.
I knew where he was coming from. I said it was fine. But life happens as life does and, when he broke up with her, we started hanging out more and talking more and we ended up dating anyway. (I felt really bad for a while. But then I got over it. :3)
Please note that he never cheated on her, and he never would've, and I'm more than aware that it could be a dangerous thing because "what if he did the same thing to me that he did to her?" Etc.
But it won't happen because he really isn't that kind of guy.
So what kind of guy is he?
Korean, adopted by Italian parents, a second year law student. He can play violin and piano and guitar; he can sing (he loves noraebang) and cook. He's smart and plays Ultimate Frisbee and has a job secured for his 2L summer. He's a good writer (on our law school Law Review) and a very helpful mentor; he's sweet and thoughtful and geeky in all the right ways. He watched anime, sometimes still watches Bleach, loves hulu.com and random TV shows and icanhascheezburger.com (because cats are adorable). He loves his iPhone and is kind of a FB whore, has a shelf full of Ayn Rand (it's okay, I made a face too), and indulges me in my college basketball fanatiscism. He knows I love SJM and thinks it's cute and alskdjfldsk--I like him so much it could be love.
I really, really like him and he really, really likes me, and he makes me act like a giddy 12-year-old at times. It's terrible and wonderful at the same time. I am so ready to not be twelve anymore, you guys!
It's only been a month and a half but he makes me happy. :)
SO TL;DR STORY OF TMI FOR YOU. :D Now do this meme! Because you love me?
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Story of the Boy
At law school, we have mentoring programs. For the school and within organizations as well. Boy, as a second-year student, was the mentor of my friend Lynn, while I got Anna, who is a third-year and seriously on top of her shit. She's a little intimidating, but incredibly helpful. She wasn't nearly as approachable as Boy, though, and because Lynn and I are attached at the hip (studying, eating, hanging out together all the time), the three of us ended up spending a lot of time together.
It sounds like a simple story from there, doesn't it?
Here's the catch: Boy had a girlfriend. Of two years.
Before you run around calling me a homewrecker, you should know that they had already been having problems for the past few months. They'd been acting more like friends than a couple for those few months, and he'd been meaning to have a serious talk with her about their relationship even before he got to know me.
I knew he had a girlfriend, but only because of Facebook. He didn't talk about her, didn't spend time with her, didn't really act as if he had a girlfriend at all, even though she not only lived in the same city, she went to WashU. (She was an undergrad, though older than me by some bizarre twist of fate her and visiting Japan for a year or something. I was never sure on the facts.)
I didn't hit on him. I didn't try to go after him. I like to think I have a little class and some integrity (despite all my jokes of lacking ethics and trying to sell my body to pay off my loans)! I hung out with him the same way I hung out with all my other guy friends - I tried to be friendly and fun and myself, but apparently I sent out pheromones without realizing it. D: a lot.
Catch 2: Boy was one of five guys who liked me this semester.
And before you start thinking that I'm some crazy attractive hot babe (hi, so not true, remember how I look twelve?), you gotta take this in context: we're in law school. We live in law school. We have no lives outside of law school. And within our group of friends, I was the only girl who was single and Not Crazy. I was the best option out of few, not a hot commodity on my own. Either that or I just flirt without realizing it at all. :| This is a very real possibility because I suck like that. Life is difficult when you're oblivious to social signals like I am alskdjfld. Don't be like me, kids!
But all that was resolved. No one hates me. No one's disgruntled. All is well. The first guy who confessed to me is one of my closest guy friends now, and two of the others are also good friends in our group. The fourth has been distant now that he's realized he has no chance, but that's his problem.
As for Boy, I felt stupid and retarded and horrible after a while so I confessed. I told him we needed to talk, so we had coffee and I told him straight out that I liked him, I knew he had a girlfriend, but that I just wanted to make it clear that I wasn't demanding anything of him. I just wanted to get it out in the air because keeping it inside was making me crazy like a girl stuck in a horrible drama.
So. He told me he liked me too, but even if he broke up with his girlfriend (since they were already having problems), he wouldn't want to date because (1) we had too many friends in common and he was worried about losing them if things went badly, (2) he was good friends with the first boy who confessed to me, and was afraid there might be bad feelings there, (3) we were both really busy with law school, and (4) he felt like he owed it to his current-soon-to-be-ex to not start seeing someone immediately since they'd been together for so long. (He was such a law student, wtf, ready with his list of reasons asdjklf.)
You know, he really is a good guy.
I knew where he was coming from. I said it was fine. But life happens as life does and, when he broke up with her, we started hanging out more and talking more and we ended up dating anyway. (I felt really bad for a while. But then I got over it. :3)
Please note that he never cheated on her, and he never would've, and I'm more than aware that it could be a dangerous thing because "what if he did the same thing to me that he did to her?" Etc.
But it won't happen because he really isn't that kind of guy.
So what kind of guy is he?
Korean, adopted by Italian parents, a second year law student. He can play violin and piano and guitar; he can sing (he loves noraebang) and cook. He's smart and plays Ultimate Frisbee and has a job secured for his 2L summer. He's a good writer (on our law school Law Review) and a very helpful mentor; he's sweet and thoughtful and geeky in all the right ways. He watched anime, sometimes still watches Bleach, loves hulu.com and random TV shows and icanhascheezburger.com (because cats are adorable). He loves his iPhone and is kind of a FB whore, has a shelf full of Ayn Rand (it's okay, I made a face too), and indulges me in my college basketball fanatiscism. He knows I love SJM and thinks it's cute and alskdjfldsk--I like him so much it could be love.
I really, really like him and he really, really likes me, and he makes me act like a giddy 12-year-old at times. It's terrible and wonderful at the same time. I am so ready to not be twelve anymore, you guys!
It's only been a month and a half but he makes me happy. :)
SO TL;DR STORY OF TMI FOR YOU. :D Now do this meme! Because you love me?
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God he sounds wonderful *slightly jealous* XDDD CONGRATULATIONS :D
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:DD ♥
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you are adorable. and this Boy sounds awesome. and and
I'm so happy for you.
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But seriously, I feel really lucky so. :)
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Now, GO GET FAT. :|b
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Yes'm! My mom is determined to make me fat, so let's go at it!
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Promise to invite me to your wedding--TOO SOON? XDno subject
slkdjfd I have joked about this with Lynn, and it IS too early but the scary thing is that I might be able to see it :|So weird. But you'd be invited to my wedding, whoever it's to!no subject
He sounds fantastic, skfhjflshk; and such a gentleman. GOOD CATCH. :Db and he's so lucky too, you both are so lucky kljsajkslfh; SO ADORABLE.
kangin approves.
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Yay Kangin!
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dhskfhsk so cute *~*!!!
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If he were Chinese, he'd be perfectI think I have a pretty good deal as it is. ;3 Thank you. I hope things continue going well. ♥no subject
Good job me!
Now tell me in tl;dr tmi your stories.
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He sounds like a really nice guy though, Mei. I'm so happy for you!
or I just flirt without realizing it at all. :| This is a very real possibility because I suck like that. Life is difficult when you're oblivious to social signals like I am alskdjfld. Don't be like me, kids!
Too late... apparently, I already do this! Why do snarky or quick comebacks from girls + smirks or smiles = flirting?!
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Crazy how guys can interpret things to be flirting. Have fun but be careful! ;)
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That is me recently, which is a nice change of pace!
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, you homewrecking hussy! :DDD He sounds adorbs, and I'm sure you're adorbs together.no subject
Except I win. :3 So maybe okay, fufufu.
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Why so adorable, you? ♥
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I am happy for yooooooooooooooou~ You are hot and adorable and sweet and you deserve a good guy! ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
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He can play violin and piano and guitar; he can sing (he loves noraebang) and cook.
♥___♥
And also, this story continues to make me :DDDDDD at my screen.
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/superficial
But seriously, CONGRATS! You guys sound really cute together!
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Your icon is adorable~
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awwwww ♥
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♥
I hope you're taking care!
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Happy New Year! I hope you're doing well too. ♥