big brother china and little sister taiwan
Taiwan-China relations can be a touchy subject. I'm no expert on it, but I can talk about my experiences with it - even if anecdeta is so often considered the lowest form of evidence in any argument. Aha! But I'm not presenting an argument, at least not that I'm aware of. I'll reassess this at the end of my spiel. I have a lot of thoughts, per usual, and I was promised an audience, so bear with me here!
I grew up influenced (read: happily brainwashed) by my mainland parents into believing that of course Taiwan is a part of China! I wasn't really into politics, see, and didn't really care about Chinese history, so this was an issue I never bothered engaging in. I spent more of my time fighting with my parents that I was American, goshdarnit, so just let me be! Why do I have to go to Chinese school! With time, I grew out of that phase and learned to accept - even embrace! - my Chinese heritage. Perhaps it was zealous overcompensation for the past that made me even more inclined to accept that China was great and amazing and powerful (watch out, America! I was gloating and gleeful, as if I had any hand in the rise of China). In this vein, of course Taiwan is clearly part of China! China does what it wants, yo. LOL Taiwan is foolish to think it can resist through its token protests - please, the U.S. is too afraid of China to even officially acknowledge Taiwan as a country!
Thankfully I grew out of that phase too. I still can't pretend expertise, like I said, on either China or Taiwanese history or politics, but I'm a little more conscious of China's faults. As a country that I love, it's easy to be blind to its problems, but I'd argue that you can't really love something unless you know it, and knowing it entails knowing the realities of its strengths and weaknesses, its pros and cons. I'd like to think I love China more now that I know it a little better, not because I'm ready and willing to excuse its flaws, but because at least now I know where it comes up short. I know its reality a little better. China is far from perfect and far from capable of blithely dictating Taiwan a part of itself and making it a reality. It's also far from being in the right for making that dictation to begin with.
In my experience, Taiwanese people are easy to rile up if you mention China or imply that Taiwan is somehow part of China. In my experience, mainlanders rarely bring up the topic because they don't feel as though it is an issue at all - of course Taiwan is China! It's a fact of life that brings up no more contention that saying the sky is blue. Moving on!
But I have Taiwanese friends - no, wait, hear me out! This isn't like saying I have a black friend, I promise. I don't purport to suddenly know everything or be justified in all my opinions simply because I have friends who say or believe X, Y, or Z. I have Taiwanese friends, yes, but all they've done is help me face the reality of Taiwan, not as merely a concept (a "province" of China, a controversial issue, and so on), but as a country with food and music and culture that I'm interested in. It's self-absorbed, isn't it? But true. Only through my own interest in Taiwan did I finally come to accept it as a diverse reality, rather than a theoretical political entity I could easily dismiss as just making trouble for China because it could.
So, being a little less blind, I can see that China is not the maligned motherland here (though I do like to joke about how the National Palace Museum (Gu Gong) in Taipei is full of treasure only because they 'stole' it from the National Palace (Gu Gong) in Beijing when the KMT fled) and Taiwan not some recalcitrant child. I loved Taiwan when I visited, though it was a short visit. I can't pretend I'm filled with a fire for Taiwanese independence, but at the very least I am no longer blindly resistant to the idea. I'm not really bothered either way, though I think I'd prefer if China acted less stupidly re: Taiwan mostly for the sake of my own love for China. It's painful to watching someone you love make a complete fool of themselves, convinced of their own righteousnes...
This is only my personal journey re: Taiwan-China relations. While the official relationship has improved in the past five years (owing, according to my dad, in large part to the current Taiwanese president), the present balance is still somewhat precarious: Taiwan's current policy involves refusing to acknolwedge itself as part of China but not actively refuting either, and the latter is all China particularly cares about so it can continue to maintain a facade of one glorious unified kingdom. On the plus side, tourism has picked up between the two and I'd like to think the younger generation isn't as dead-set as the older generation in enmity. It's hard to say, though, since I didn't grow up in either China or Taiwan. I'm as much an outsider as any other American, in many respects. There remain, undoubtedly, a lot of prejudices.
It's not my place to to dictate how Taiwanese people should feel about mainland Chinese people or vice versa (or how they feel about each other's government, since that is a fairly separate thing from the people). I can say this, however: Prejudice is ugly and the perpetuation of it is never a good thing. Prejudices are not well-founded concerns or thoughtful arguments; prejudice, whatever legitimate concern or fear or mistrust it once originated from, is a warped version of those things used to justify the continued refusal to engage with reality.
Maybe I do have an argument. If I do, that's it. I'm not an expert on Taiwan-China relations, but I am more enlightened than I was in the past. (It's not hard, considering how little I knew then.) My enlightenment tells me only that the relations are complex and complicated because of history and politics (both past and current) - and also because of prejudice. Taiwanese people will say and believe terrible things about mainlanders. Mainland Chinese people will say and believe terrible things about the Taiwanese. Even if history and politics somehow resolved to unify Taiwan and China or to grant full recognition of an independent Taiwan, the prejudice would continue.
I hate that.
I wish we, as humans, weren't so willing to perpetuate that.
Feelings are valid, be they rational or irrational. Of course they are! I'm the last one to argue against that, being so constantly ~full of feelings~ myself. But if our feelings are rooted in prejudice, maybe we should reexamine those feelings and that prejudice and ask ourselves if that is what we want to perpetuate. Feelings may be valid, but they are not the sole guiding factor to our actions, nor do they trump the rest in importance.
Hey Taiwan, I love you! Maybe not the way I love China (or even Singapore, and with far less complexity than the way I love the U.S.) but you ain't bad. And fuck, I miss your food.
No matter how tempted, I promise I won't wish you off the map. Seriously, I'd miss your food too much. D: And your variety shows, when SJM is on them...
I grew up influenced (read: happily brainwashed) by my mainland parents into believing that of course Taiwan is a part of China! I wasn't really into politics, see, and didn't really care about Chinese history, so this was an issue I never bothered engaging in. I spent more of my time fighting with my parents that I was American, goshdarnit, so just let me be! Why do I have to go to Chinese school! With time, I grew out of that phase and learned to accept - even embrace! - my Chinese heritage. Perhaps it was zealous overcompensation for the past that made me even more inclined to accept that China was great and amazing and powerful (watch out, America! I was gloating and gleeful, as if I had any hand in the rise of China). In this vein, of course Taiwan is clearly part of China! China does what it wants, yo. LOL Taiwan is foolish to think it can resist through its token protests - please, the U.S. is too afraid of China to even officially acknowledge Taiwan as a country!
Thankfully I grew out of that phase too. I still can't pretend expertise, like I said, on either China or Taiwanese history or politics, but I'm a little more conscious of China's faults. As a country that I love, it's easy to be blind to its problems, but I'd argue that you can't really love something unless you know it, and knowing it entails knowing the realities of its strengths and weaknesses, its pros and cons. I'd like to think I love China more now that I know it a little better, not because I'm ready and willing to excuse its flaws, but because at least now I know where it comes up short. I know its reality a little better. China is far from perfect and far from capable of blithely dictating Taiwan a part of itself and making it a reality. It's also far from being in the right for making that dictation to begin with.
In my experience, Taiwanese people are easy to rile up if you mention China or imply that Taiwan is somehow part of China. In my experience, mainlanders rarely bring up the topic because they don't feel as though it is an issue at all - of course Taiwan is China! It's a fact of life that brings up no more contention that saying the sky is blue. Moving on!
But I have Taiwanese friends - no, wait, hear me out! This isn't like saying I have a black friend, I promise. I don't purport to suddenly know everything or be justified in all my opinions simply because I have friends who say or believe X, Y, or Z. I have Taiwanese friends, yes, but all they've done is help me face the reality of Taiwan, not as merely a concept (a "province" of China, a controversial issue, and so on), but as a country with food and music and culture that I'm interested in. It's self-absorbed, isn't it? But true. Only through my own interest in Taiwan did I finally come to accept it as a diverse reality, rather than a theoretical political entity I could easily dismiss as just making trouble for China because it could.
So, being a little less blind, I can see that China is not the maligned motherland here (though I do like to joke about how the National Palace Museum (Gu Gong) in Taipei is full of treasure only because they 'stole' it from the National Palace (Gu Gong) in Beijing when the KMT fled) and Taiwan not some recalcitrant child. I loved Taiwan when I visited, though it was a short visit. I can't pretend I'm filled with a fire for Taiwanese independence, but at the very least I am no longer blindly resistant to the idea. I'm not really bothered either way, though I think I'd prefer if China acted less stupidly re: Taiwan mostly for the sake of my own love for China. It's painful to watching someone you love make a complete fool of themselves, convinced of their own righteousnes...
This is only my personal journey re: Taiwan-China relations. While the official relationship has improved in the past five years (owing, according to my dad, in large part to the current Taiwanese president), the present balance is still somewhat precarious: Taiwan's current policy involves refusing to acknolwedge itself as part of China but not actively refuting either, and the latter is all China particularly cares about so it can continue to maintain a facade of one glorious unified kingdom. On the plus side, tourism has picked up between the two and I'd like to think the younger generation isn't as dead-set as the older generation in enmity. It's hard to say, though, since I didn't grow up in either China or Taiwan. I'm as much an outsider as any other American, in many respects. There remain, undoubtedly, a lot of prejudices.
It's not my place to to dictate how Taiwanese people should feel about mainland Chinese people or vice versa (or how they feel about each other's government, since that is a fairly separate thing from the people). I can say this, however: Prejudice is ugly and the perpetuation of it is never a good thing. Prejudices are not well-founded concerns or thoughtful arguments; prejudice, whatever legitimate concern or fear or mistrust it once originated from, is a warped version of those things used to justify the continued refusal to engage with reality.
Maybe I do have an argument. If I do, that's it. I'm not an expert on Taiwan-China relations, but I am more enlightened than I was in the past. (It's not hard, considering how little I knew then.) My enlightenment tells me only that the relations are complex and complicated because of history and politics (both past and current) - and also because of prejudice. Taiwanese people will say and believe terrible things about mainlanders. Mainland Chinese people will say and believe terrible things about the Taiwanese. Even if history and politics somehow resolved to unify Taiwan and China or to grant full recognition of an independent Taiwan, the prejudice would continue.
I hate that.
I wish we, as humans, weren't so willing to perpetuate that.
Feelings are valid, be they rational or irrational. Of course they are! I'm the last one to argue against that, being so constantly ~full of feelings~ myself. But if our feelings are rooted in prejudice, maybe we should reexamine those feelings and that prejudice and ask ourselves if that is what we want to perpetuate. Feelings may be valid, but they are not the sole guiding factor to our actions, nor do they trump the rest in importance.
Hey Taiwan, I love you! Maybe not the way I love China (or even Singapore, and with far less complexity than the way I love the U.S.) but you ain't bad. And fuck, I miss your food.
No matter how tempted, I promise I won't wish you off the map. Seriously, I'd miss your food too much. D: And your variety shows, when SJM is on them...

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... possibly my head is just stuck way too much in antiquity. IDK, not reading a degree in politics.
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prejudices have got that horrible tendency to be entrenched because, like you say, they're comforting and familiar and no one wants to wander outside of their comfort zone. :/ though, like others below have mentioned, the unfortunate case with prejudices against the mainlanders is that ... quite often reality does confirm the stereotypes. I mean, when I got back from travelling China with my parents over the summer (& it was the more "civilised" bits too) I was like ... right I'll wait ten years to go back, shall I.
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Can't edit on my phone augh
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When we went to Taiwan in December we brought like 5 Mainland students with us, and it was notable that none of them would confess to being 大陆 until they were asked, or were sure they wouldn't be castigated for it. Sometimes it was simply easier to just pretend to be Singaporeans or Malaysians with really good Mandarin. That was an interesting dynamic to observe, and it was also interesting to note that the Chinese students who'd been in Singapore for a long time behaved really differently from the girl who'd only been away from China from a year. Sad to say she was rather offensive and obnoxious, but obviously that says less about her nationality than her personality. Yet the other Mainlanders corroborated that even they sometimes distance themselves from the Chinese who had just left China, because they tended to fulfill the stereotypes of being rude and inconsiderate. I've gone a little bit off-topic now, but it's terrible how reality also makes all this really messy as well.
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I'd agree there are probably different norms in mainland versus Taiwan? (Though mainland is also huge with a lot of different regions and they're not all homogeneous either...) Rude people exist everywhere, polite people exist everywhere, but the definition of "rude" and "polite" I suppose will vary slightly from place to place?
I feel like I"m entirely off topic now too! But it's interesting to think about. Still, none of that makes a decent justification or explanation for prejudice though.
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I'd like to see China democratic/more free for sure. Really not happy with a lot of the decisions the CCP is making, because honestly some of those decisions are more rooted in their own fear of losing power rather than for the good of the country in the big picture/long term.
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On the other hand, a lot of the college kids were all, "Ewwwww, gross, Chinese tourists, they're so loud and uncouth and disruptive!" But some were like, "No, it's important that they gain an understanding of Taiwanese culture so that we can have more peaceful relations with them!" One boy in particular told me something along the lines of, "It's not that I don't like Chinese tourists; it's that I don't think Taiwan's at a point where we can impress them enough as a tourist destination for them to take us seriously, so we should wait and develop more before we reach out to them" -- which I thought was interesting, and ties into all sorts of complicated questions about soft power and public diplomacy and why people in Taiwan want or need to impress their mainland neighbors in the first place. But I digress!
Ultimately, I don't think I came to any real conclusion in my research except, "Cross-strait relations, they are a complicated business! Forming a hardline opinion is difficult!" But it would be nice for them to not hate each other quite so much, yes. :3
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Just as PRC education teaches that Taiwan is and always has been part of China, ROC education in my parents' generation was: we must retake/return to the mainland/rescue it from those commies. This has changed, I think, since the few years the DPP spent in power meant the Taiwanese independence movement made its way into education too. I'm not sure what exactly is taught now but frankly I have yet to meet a single Taiwanese person my age who likes the idea of reunification. In fact, the One China people in Taiwan are mostly old KMT/pan-blue. Pan-greeners and young people will generally respond to you with a snippy "gwa shee dai wan lang" (我是台灣人).
One problem is that the influx of Chinese tourists onto Taiwan has actually done more to sour perceptions of the mainland than strengthen ties, at least on the Taiwanese end. The few Chinese tourists we've spoken to generally come away with positive impressions of the island, particularly the vastly superior hygiene and friendlier people (and obviously this generalization is problematic, but the fact remains that China only recently came out of poverty, so attitudes there are on the whole more cutthroat than Taiwan). Taiwanese, on the other hand, are generally horrified by what they perceive as an invasion of uncouth, uncivilized people onto the island. The most common complaint you hear over there is that mainland tourist groups have turned the National Palace Museum and other historical/cultural/beautiful spots into 菜市場. And it is really, really difficult to shake these perceptions when reality keeps affirming them, because yeah.
The news that comes out of China isn't too promising, either. The food/health safety problems alone give the impression, rightly or wrongly, that China is a society that lacks basic morality.
Obviously there are good Chinese people and terrible Taiwanese people, but one thing I think a lot of people tend to forget is how fundamentally different China and Taiwan are. China is a one-party state. Taiwan is a democracy, and not only that, it's the only country in Asia other than Japan to have a fully free press. And Taiwan's history is weird. It is nothing like China, and growing up there is nothing like growing up in any part of mainland China simply because there is a level of freedom and mobility you can't have in a tightly-controlled single-party state just coming out of a long period of overwhelming poverty and social chaos. And what comes of that is a group of people who observe this huge, massive, comparatively (socially and politically) backwards country full of these strange people who talk like they own us, and worse, are friggin' pointing missiles at us. This is not a situation where positive, happy feelings are easy to conjure.
Prejudice is never the best way to go about anything but this is a case where simply saying that the Taiwanese should let go of their prejudices, distrust, and fear is not only unhelpful but... I don't know, presumptuous (?). China still has five hundred missiles pointed at Taiwan, something the Taiwanese do not readily forget. Historically -- the first forty or so years the KMT was in power on the island, Taiwanese were treated as second-class citizens (second to mainlanders) and there is a ton of bad blood because of that, too. It doesn't really stop at "mainlanders are dirty and crude," and to be fair, standards of hygiene on the mainland are lower than in Taiwan.
It's such a difficult situation from both a political and ideological standpoint. And honestly, prejudice against mainlanders isn't so much a Taiwanese thing as it is an everywhere with 華人 thing.
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hmmm, i don't think about this enough. but it's interesting.
(not really addressing non-chinese vs. chinese because at that point it's just plain racism and not excusable/...discussionable or particularly interesting to me)
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This part made me think that this was about more than just outsiders? Because if we're just talking about people at large, and people discussing the situation who are not involved, of course prejudice is a terrible thing and we should reexamine. The widespread hatred of mainlanders is unhelpful and problematic and I don't disagree with you at all on that point.
I just didn't get the feeling that that was the group of people this post was addressing, and I think this type of discussion is really difficult to have in regards to the China-Taiwan problem specifically. Like we can sit here and talk about ideology, but in the context of Taiwan toward China in particular, I just. Eh. When you have this situation where Taiwanese are feeling oppressed and backed into a corner and seeing the example of Hong Kong and fearing that they might possibly be forced to become a similar political clusterfuck, it's difficult - in my opinion - to talk about how important it is that the people in this situation check their prejudices and biases, because really, they're thinking about other things.
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This, though, really resonated with me:
Prejudice is ugly and the perpetuation of it is never a good thing. Prejudices are not well-founded concerns or thoughtful arguments; prejudice, whatever legitimate concern or fear or mistrust it once originated from, is a warped version of those things used to justify the continued refusal to engage with reality.
This. I know of many Singaporeans who complain endlessly about the Chinese in Singapore (especially Chinese students) who are apparently loud and uncouth etc etc. It annoyed me before I actually met Chinese people for myself and it just appalls me now. I wish there was an easier way, but some people will just continue to remain assholes, I guess.
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Ugh, prejudice. It really is everywhere and none of us can be totally free from it, but it frustrates me the most when people blindly try to deny it. It's okay that it exists! (Well it's a shitty thing, but you know what I mean.) That's natural. What matters is how we choose to acknowledge it and act - hopefully in ways that elevate us above our prejudice.
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I can understand both sides, I kind of see where there demands come from and why they have problems to simply let go of them.
Still, I believe that it would be best for all if China would be willing to let Taiwan go.
I really like China, I enjoyed my time there, and I don't see it as the big evil country that will come and distroy all other countries. But they have been seperated for so long, they have really different ways, but they're both not doing that bad (like if you compare them to North and South Korea, it is pretty clear that North Korea isn't doing to good, and that the people there suffer a lot. Not that they aren't people suffering in China/Taiwan as well, but in the big picture both China and Taiwan are doing just fine).
And I believe both sides see the difficulties they would face, which is one of the main reasons I think - besides the protection of the US - that China hasn't really use force to get to Taiwan, but sticks to the "as is" situation.
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But nothing is simple! So, I guess we'll see where the future leads us.
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I don't have much else to say, because your story so much mirrors my own. I'm not terribly familiar with Taiwan-Chinese relations, having never been to Taiwan, and not having grown up in a particularly politically inclined family (I don't remember ever hearing my mainland Chinese parents discuss Taiwan). but still, I did grow up with this sense that of course the motherland is right, and that Taiwan returning to China was just an inevitable conclusion one day. I'm glad I no longer think like that, and you're right -- it's complicated.
These days I don't think much about the issue at all, tbh. It's not an issue I have any real expertise in, so I can't speak for it either which way.
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(Anonymous) 2012-02-06 09:55 pm (UTC)(link)i don't know. i am trying really hard to restrain myself from saying something offensive, but i have been raised really intensely taiwanese by parents whose parents of parents have been in taiwan for over 400 years. do chinese people really think about the fact that china has over a thousand missiles pointed at taiwan right now when they say things like they want china-taiwan relations to improve? really? taiwan is like, one square foot in area. (i think
i am obviously biased, not making any pretensions otherwise. i do think it's important to hear these things, though, instead of just talking about it with other chinese-americans who just wish everyone could get along. it is not going to happen for a long time, and for that to happen i think both countries need to undergo some major changes.
#gettingoffmysoapboxnow sorry for using your livejournal as a platform. :\ for everything i've said above, though, i do appreciate the fact that you are thinking about this issue, because it is definitely an important one!